We spend a considerable amount of time in front of the mirror, perfecting our looks, assembling flattering outfits, and adorning our bodies with jewels, but sometimes it’s good to pause and think “Hey – why am I doing this?”
Are you doing it to gain confidence?
Are you doing it to just look normal?
Are you doing it because it’s the norm?
This thought just crossed my head as I was studying — I was thinking about how I need to spend more meaningful time with my parents. They’re not getting any younger, and right now is the time to develop a meaningful relationship with them. I love my parents & I had an ideal childhood, so why do I find it a chore to talk to them sometimes? I feel bad for considering it a chore, or something on my list of things to do, since they truly mean the world to me and I would have debilitating pain if anything ever happened to them.
Relationships and style are about effort. Sometimes a great look is effortless, and sometimes a great relationship is too, but every now and then you need to spice up your routine, and same goes for your relationship, and you need to put a little more effort in or switch up/spice up your routine.
I like the interplay between the two, because to a certain degree they both go hand in hand. If you rush your routine, you may not be happy with your result as you glance at yourself using your rear view mirror, and the same could be said with relationships, if you pay minimal attention to it and rush out the door — you may not get the same satisfaction in maintaining it or even having it.
Some techniques I’m going to do to make my conversations more meaningful and energetic:
- bring a ton of energy in my voice when i’m speaking. “Hey!!!!! How are you guys!?!?! What is going on? What did you eat? OMG THAT SOUNDS AMAZING!!!” lol you get my point.
- I’m going to tell them a joke.
- I’m going to be an active listener.
- I’m going to make sure we do not dwell on the phone.
- I’m going to make sure we use the time constructively.
- I’ll ask for advice. (everyone loves feeling needed, and feeling like they effortless help you out)
Being hundreds of miles from my parents makes it hard — but i know it’s possible with a few tricks and tips. Do you have any tips or tricks? How do you keep your relationship with your parents meaningful?