Month: November 2013

Bettering Yourself: Relationship With Your Parents

We spend a considerable amount of time in front of the mirror, perfecting our looks, assembling flattering outfits, and adorning our bodies with jewels, but sometimes it’s good to pause and think “Hey – why am I doing this?”

Are you doing it to gain confidence?

Are you doing it to just look normal?

Are you doing it because it’s the norm?

Why?

This thought just crossed my head as I was studying — I was thinking about how I need to spend more meaningful time with my parents. They’re not getting any younger, and right now is the time to develop a meaningful relationship with them. I love my parents & I had an ideal childhood, so  why do I find it a chore to talk to them sometimes? I feel bad for considering it a chore, or something on my list of things to do, since they truly mean the world to me and I would have debilitating pain if anything ever happened to them.

Relationships and style are about effort. Sometimes a great look is effortless, and sometimes a great relationship is too, but every now and then you need to spice up your routine, and same goes for  your relationship, and you need to put a little more effort in or switch up/spice up your routine.

I like the interplay between the two, because to a certain degree they both go hand in hand. If you rush your routine, you may not be happy with your result as you glance at yourself using your rear view mirror, and the same could be said with relationships, if you pay minimal attention to it and rush out the door — you may not get the same satisfaction in maintaining it or even having it.

Some techniques I’m going to do to make my conversations more meaningful and energetic:

  • bring a ton of energy in my voice when i’m speaking. “Hey!!!!! How are you guys!?!?! What is going on? What did you eat? OMG THAT SOUNDS AMAZING!!!”  lol you get my point.
  • I’m going to tell them a joke.
  •  I’m going to be an active listener.
  • I’m going to make sure we do not dwell on the phone.
  • I’m going to make sure we use the time constructively.
  • I’ll ask for advice. (everyone loves feeling needed, and feeling like they effortless help you out)

Being hundreds of miles from my parents makes it hard — but i know it’s possible with a few tricks and tips.  Do you have any tips or tricks? How do you keep your relationship with your parents meaningful?

Dating: 11 tips to take it to the next level.

I’m NO pro at dating, but I do have a few fool-proof tricks up my sleeve. I would love to share them with you — so you can you snag “Mr. Right” and leave “Mr.  Okay-for-Right-Now”.

  1. If he loves you, likes you or is interested, he will make time for you.
  2. Don’t initially bombard him with texts and calls, keep it short and simple. You don’t want a cyber relationship– you want a REAL one: ditch the long texts or phone calls for hanging out in person, grabbing coffee together, or going for a stroll.
  3. Talk about outdoorsy activities that you enjoy — if he is paying attention, he’ll plan something around it on your next date because he knows that it’s a fail-proof date idea.
  4. Let him pay. You do not need to prove yourself — and you should always offer, but if he insists then let him. You want a partner who will take care of you — then it starts with this small gesture. You’re job is to look pretty and be good company. His job is to open doors, pick up the check , and be there ON time. After the third date, or even the second date you can pick up the dessert tab, pick up your lunch tab or make him something special!
  5. Take it slow, for the first two months. See each other once or twice a week, nothing more (this is what SLOW means)!
  6. Don’t act like your married  if you’re JUST dating or don’t act like he is your boyfriend when all you’ve done is go out on a date.
  7. If you’ve been hanging out for a while (one month or more) and you both really like each other or you like him, then ask him “where is this going?” or “what is going on between us” — it’ll definitely take courage, but if he says I don’t know or he wants to be friends, then the balls in your court. You can continue to hang out, cut him out or not feel guilty about meeting other people.
  8. Remember you’re single until he is actually your boyfriend & he is single until you’re actually his girlfriend: girls often get upset that this guy did them wrong, blah blah blah blah blah — my first question is: did he know the parameters of your relationship? “Ummm kinda, we didn’t talk about it — it was understood”  If this is your answer, then make it clear to him that this is what you thought, and ask why he didn’t think that? If you it’s a reasonable excuse, then set boundaries, so you know you’re on the same page, if it’s not a reasonable reason– LEAVE HIM. Don’t open the door again. Bye.
  9. Be simple. Don’t be demanding & don’t change his date ideas. Go along for the ride with a smile, and appreciate the time he put into planning the date!
  10. THE MOST IMPORTANT TIP: DO NOT BE A LAST MINUTE SORT OF GIRL.  You’re time is valuable and he should know that! He should plan his dates with you well in advance. For example, if he wants to go out on Friday, he should tell you by Tuesday! You want him actively thinking about you and your date through out the week, you want him to work for you and dwell on you.  As you date for a longer period of time, then it’s okay to do things on a last minute basis — because who does like the spontaneous girl!
  11. Be confident. You’re beautiful: inside and out. Don’t feel insecure  — think about how luck you are — there are girls that are being sold somewhere? People who find the internet to be a LUXURY, people  who have no one to use this tricks on! So trust me girl you’re lucky.  You have eyes to read this, and common sense to interpret it — TRUST ME. Be thankful, smile and “fake it till you make it.”
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Rosebud Burger (Short Rib and Brisket meat)!

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I went into work this past Wednesday and had a great time listening it to a great client meeting with my boss. The client has is a band (incredibly talented) and their father has quite the life story (so wants to figure out a book deal). After the client meeting, my boss suggested we go  and grab some lunch– he suggested Rosebud. If you can remember from a previous post, I had a great experience at RoseBud in October for my birthday! The food and service were great, and, once again, Rosebud did not fail to deliver.

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This time I wanted to get the LOBSTER QUICHE! Unforunately, they were sold out! Fortunately, I decided to try the Burger– and O.M.G. IT WAS SO GOOOOOD. I enjoyed half of it as Rosebud, along with a pasta salad. I enjoyed the 2nd half of it for lunch the following day (and it was still amazing)! The burger is juicy, and I devoured every drop of the bbq sauce and I love the caramelized onions and the slice of homemade cheddar (which reminded me of Brie)

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My Boss is on the Atkins diet and is trying to get healthy and lose weight for the upcoming holiday season. I admire his commitment to good health. He watches what he eats & runs, yet still gets to enjoy all of the great Atlanta food and drinks. He truly lives a balanced lifestyle.

He ordered a “Dude It’s a Salad”. He LOVED it!

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it comes with a Bison burger. Bison meat is leaner than beef and has a higher iron content than beef! It’s truly great meat for my health  conscious friends.

I hope you check out these two dishes at Rosebud. Tell me what you think!

Perfume: Britney Spears and My collection!

Have you heard the new Britney Spears song:


I love this song! It’s incredibly on point. Do you remember not knowing what was going on in a relationship and you have to pretend to play it cool because you don’t want to seem like that crazy girl? Well in the song Britney Spears sticks it to this “girl” who may or may not be real! She says:

have you been thinking ’bout her or about me- And while I wait I put on my perfume, yeah I want it all over you -I gotta mark my territory

All of this perfume talk gets me thinking of my scents and how the smell lingers on my friends. I always have a few bottles of perfumes–so depending on my mood or the occasion I pick my scent! The three perfumes I currently own are:

  1. COCO MADEMOISELLE PARFUM ($115): Such a classic scent. I love it, it sticks on my clothes and can be detected as I pass through doors — and people always know the distinct smell of Coco!
  2. MARC JACOBS FRAGRANCE Daisy ($70): I wear this to school (almost) everyday! It’s fun and playful. I’m not sure if it sticks on my clothes? Definitely more floral and chic.
  3. RALPH LAUREN Ralph ($67.50): I use to wear this in college EVERY single day! I loved it i mainly use it when i want to appear fun or if i’m going out! i love the smell — I wouldn’t wear it to an interview, but i would wear it out  to dinner with friends or going to the mall!

I own the rollers versions of:

  1. RALPH LAUREN Ralph ($20)
  2. RALPH LAUREN Romance ($20)
  3. STELLA MCCARTNEY ($?)

I love roll-ons! They’re awesome — they fit perfectly in your purse and you can always smell great when things get a little hot and sweaty. Who doesn’t love a fresh smelling girl?

Product I Continuously Buy

I am a beauty and food addict. Sometimes beauty is a little challenging to write about it, because  there is so much good stuff out there, and requires a more detailed review, but I would love to share products with you that I continuously buy:

  1. Moroccan Oil (I purchased this 4 times–since trying it 3 years ago). It’s a great product, and now it’s like conditioner, body wash & shampoo– it’s apart of my routine. I put it in my hair after I shower, put it in my hair after I’m done styling it!
  2. TRESemme Heat Protectant Spray (the red bottle– I’ve purchased this 3 times since trying it in 2011). I feel like this is a great product –and hopefully it’s doing what it’s suppose to –because i feel like it is and it smells greats and curbs the frizz mid going out or mid-dinner with friends!
  3. Apple Cider Vinegar (bought this twice since buying it in October, 2013). I am obsessed and will have a WHOLE post dedicated to it! Needless to say: great for your HAIR, SKIN AND WEIGHT!
  4. NARS “Larger Than Life” lipgloss in Place Vendôme: OMG LOVE IT! AHHHH but I hate the price tag ($26). I only wear it for special occasions/going out & the quality and consistency is awesome, it’s thick, glossy, stays put, leaves my mark on glasses, and has a pretty residual effect!  when i wear it people always notice it and my girl friends are always trying to “borrow it”  so it’s  WINNER! and once i get some time I’ll go out and purchase it again!!
  5. Revlon  Lip Butter in Candy Apple: I’ve purchased it twice. great color, feels great, and doesn’t flake or dry out!
  6. Nexxus Shampoo and Conditioner: I’ve been buying it since 2009. Salon quality product – i like the lather.
  7. Foaming make-up cloths:  I usually buy Oil of Olay or Ponds, which ever one is on sale – they’re both great. i use them alot when i’m worried about over working my skin with the Clarisonic!
  8. Neutrogena Grapefruit Body Wash and Face Wash: (Purchased this 4 times!) It seems natural and I like the grapefruit aspect.
  9. Make Up Forever’s Black Eye Liner: LOVE THIS. i use to wear regular drugstore liner (Revlon, Cover Girl, etc) but it would always end up ON my contacts and then at some point during the night my eyes would feel irritated and my vision would blur! Ever since buying this I can say that it’s NEVER HAPPENED. I love this product, and WILL be purchasing it again ($20).
  10. Falsie’s Mascara with the bottom lash brush: LOVE this mascara. My relationship with it is turbulent because it dries out out my lashes and sometimes flakes — but I the results i get with Falsie’s does not compare to any other brand i’ve tried — it’s just AWESOME – people always compliment my lashes. I have purchased at least 5 or 6 tubes!