Author: The MAK Guide

Georgia Lawyer, who has relocated to Kansas City. Determined to do something I love. Passionate about: food, family, friends, faith & fashion. This blog is a little piece of my journey. Follow me on Instagram: TheMAKGuide Follow me on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/akstars/

How to Pack for an Indian Wedding

Here is a basic checklist of things you’ll need for the Indian / Desi / Pakistani wedding you’ll be attending:

  1.  For each event, a different out fit. Even if there are two events in one day- you pack an outfit for each separate event.
  2. Bangles (ask a friend or order some off of Amazon – sizing can be a little weird, so make sure you do it two weeks in advance so you can return them if they do not work out)
  3. Eye Liner
  4. Your favorite eye shadow palette
  5. Foundation
  6. Beauty Blender
  7. Translucent Power
  8. Primer
  9. Setting Spray
  10. False Lashes
  11. Making removing wipes
  12. Facewash
  13. Razor
  14. “Chill Clothes” – stuff to wear when you grab breakfast, are attending dance practice or hanging out with everyone after the event ends.
  15. Curling Rod/ Iron
  16. Blow Dryer
  17. Straightener
  18. De-Frizz Serum ❤
  19. Clutch
  20. Flats to wear when dancing
  21. Perfume
  22. Jewelry
  23. Heels
  24. Back up cell phone battery (pictures you guys)
  25.  Safety Pins
  26. Bobby Pins

If you were to pack all of the above – I think you’d be in good shape!

 

 

Thrifty Couple Alert

I’m a young associate and my husband is a resident. For some reason, my husband and I live like we are both college students with AN INCREDIBLY LIMITED BUDGET. We really do not have to live this way, but we do it (subconsciously I think) to pay off my student loans ASAP. This thriftiness has lead to a TON of funny stories of schemes we try to run with coupons, Ebates, repairs and making things last.

I know one day we will have a lot, or at least not have student loans and will have the OPTION to do a lot without feeling guilty, and I hope we can remember these “simple days” of a washing machine that only emits SCORCHING hot water on all the water temperature modes. In an effort obtain “warm” water, I throw a ton of ice cubes into the washing machine. The quality of the wash has ruined a few of my clothes since it seems to leave a HEAVY lint/calcium deposit lines on my clothes (which actually causes me a TON of rage), but today the BEST THING happened.

Back story: My sweet, sweet, sweet husband’s had to purchase new underwear due to the fact that scorching hot water has been doing a number on the elastic band on his underwear.

Present Day:  Today I got a text from my husband, his underwear has apparently been falling under his scrubs. LOLOL.

I honestly have a lot of work to do today, but it is moments like these were I am so happy to share my life with him, through the ups & the downs, and I love that we are always laughing, even if its at our own expense.  In an effort to never forgot the heavy heart-ed laughter I am feeling, while completely alone in my office, I decided to share this with you <3.

 

 

Brazilian Blowout!

I recently got a Brazilian blowout (June 28).  I was a little bit skeptical about it, but after about 3 hours at the salon getting the treatment and about 60 hours after my initial hair wash at the salon – I think I MAY BE A BELIEVER. For example:

I woke up with morning at 8:06 am.

Out of the shower around 8:23 am (at least that was when I checked my phone).

Blow dried my hair around 8:36.

At 8:43 I realized I needed to put clothes on and LEAVE Immediately.

8:52 am out of the door.

9:06 am I was at the office with my laptop on.

My hair was about 85% dry when I entered the office. I just looked at myself in the mirror at around 2:15 pm, and I am happy with it! This RARELY happens. I’ve never been one of those girls with awesome hair straight out of the shower or one of those girls that could blow dry it for a few mins and feel awesome but with the hair treatment (as it currently is in my hair) I am totally one of those girls.  Although, I am incredibly happy with the immediate results, I’ll have to wait and see if it is just as effective 2, 4, 6, 8 & 10 weeks from now.

I’ll try to keep you posted on how the result looks at certain future intervals. If the effects on my hair lasts until Labor Day weekend, then I will definitely get it done again, if not then I will have to think a little harder about getting it to done as part of my hair care routine.

XOXO.

 

 

 

 

Chicken Tikka Masala

My love for cooking fluctuates. I  always love to cook, BUT sometimes my hatred for cleaning trumps my love for it.  I’ve been trying to get smart about the process – but it’s hard. Luckily, I have a supportive husband, who usually doesn’t mind cleaning up ( I love you Jho).  So this weekend I decided to make the following the recipe I found off of YouTube:

 

I basically followed her recipe except for a few deviations:

  1. I used a 1.7lb of chicken breast, which I cut into pieces and marinated overnight.
  2. Instead of using tomato sauce, I used Trader Joe’s diced tomatoes with chili’s (no salt added I think).  I cooked it down and added a splash of water – no more than like 1/4 of a cup of water. After it had cooked down a bit, I cook the mixture and put it in my Magic Bullet, to make it a smooth consistency (did this in two batches).
  3. Cook it for 2-5 mins and then added chicken, and then the cream.
  4. I added less than a cup of cream, and  for the marinated I added about 1/2 a cup of yogurt too (enough to where everything was coated nicely – I did this because i had a personal serving size of plain yogurt and I wanted to save half of it to make a yogurt sauce to  eat on the side called raita).
  5. Also, read the way this girl makes the recipe in the description, because in the video, I’m not sure it says she adds additional garam masala when she makes the sauce but in the description, it mentions the addition of  the additional teaspoon of garam masala!

I  honestly took the WORST food pictures — but my husband and I LOVED it ❤ and we are SOOO  excited to eat the rest for dinner :).

 

 

Is Your Mother Wise?

At a SUPER young age, I was taught, told or understood the value of telling my mom important details of my life. I guess, I truly believe she has my best interest, and there is no one one in the world who will love me, sacrifice their needs over mine, or genuinely pray for my happiness more than my mom.

I was talking to my friend Summar last night about how I am one of those kids who is an over sharer, and I told her, I guess it stemmed from my mom telling me this story of one of her sisters. One of my mom’s sisters has just had a tougher time than my mom, and my mom attributes it to her not being candid with my grandparents. My mom says, she could have been spared from tough moments that happened in her life had she just been candid with her parents and asked for advice.  My mom really holds my grandfather in high-esteem, and she trusted his judgment and truly believed the advice he would give would only be to help his child and that he would consider all of the facts (my grandfather was a small town attorney- so, I too believe that his advice would have been well reasoned).

After talking to my friend Summar,  I can definitely think of people in my life (and even my own mom) who sometimes had a biased view on things.  I listen to my mom and share a lot with her, but for some reason, I believe I have the ability to weed out the dumb stuff she says. For example, I have gained a few pounds after getting married, my sweet mother has told me on multiple occasions that this is a biological thing and it happens to women after they get married. LOLOLOLOL. Sorry, its so ridiculous that  I have to laugh. I am fairly sure she is being serious. I know that I’ve packed on a few pounds because I have been making HORRIBLE decisions food wise. I’m not mad or sad about it – my body is a product and reflection of my decisions.

Enough about my body & back to my mom. Okay, so then it occurred to me, I really wanted to write a piece on how I weigh my mom’s advice and how I decide to use it or ignore it.

  1.  Every decision I make is my own. Even if my mother provides guidance on something that I have solicited guidance on – I make sure to understand that I have to OWN the decision I make. If she provides me dumb advice and I take it, then it’s on me – it’s not on her. For example, before I got married I really wanted to buy this really beautiful diamond necklace it was 3 ctws and so beautiful. I consulted with my mother, who agreed it was a good idea, but LUCKILY when I went to place the order for it, they didn’t have it readily available and the next few days when I pondered the purchase – I realized it was a dumb idea. I do not need diamonds now, I needed to pay off my student loans.
  2.  When your parents provide unsolicited guidance, question the motive behind it. My mom wasn’t into my brother moving to NYC, but, nonetheless, he did. Her reason for holding him back was based off of her own fear of being lonely without him and she wasn’t really thinking about him, she was thinking about herself. Parents are human, and sometimes, you need to remember that like all humans, they will have their best interest in mind, and might not understand how your actions are serving YOUR best interest. Weighing the two interests is something you need to do on your own.
  3. When you parents try to meddle. Say “No”. I trust that my mom would never meddle. She provides me guidance, and, has never taken my personal battle with someone as her own personal battle. I used to really dislike it, especially when I would get into scuffles with siblings, cousins or a specific uncle, but, now as a young woman, I really value her decision not to do so. You know the saying, “Too many chefs in the kitchen, spoil the broth” I think problem solving is similar. It is okay to ask people to reflect on the issue with you and to hear different thoughts on it, but at the end of the day,  the issue you have with someone is between you and them and you do not need to drag in a third person, or have a third person speak for you, unless you are paying them and they are your attorney.
  4. Reflect on your parents lives. Do you view your parents as successful? Do you see them holding good and positive relationships in their lives? Are your parents happy? I have a feeling if they are happy  and if they are happy in their marriage & with their other relationships (friends and family) and are, in your opinion, living a good life – then you should trust their judgment for tough things and really give their opinion some extra weight when they tell you to not do things/ do things. They have done something right to maintain happy relationships with those they love, & the advice they give you will come from past experiences that obviously lead to a past positive result.

I am sure you know bad advice when you see it, but the above are just a few things to consider next time your mom, or anyone that is important to you, provides you guidance. I hope it is helpful and allows you to obtain some perspective.

Peace, love and happiness.

Practice Points: 7 Legal Phrases I Wish I Knew When I First Started.

  1. Notwithstanding anything to the contrary contained in this Agreement,…” this is the ultimate trump clause. By adding this provision, if later or earlier in the document you say something to the contrary, it is automatically trumped by the contradictory statement that comes after this phrase!
  2. The [Enter Party’s Name] understand, acknowledges and agrees to ….” I use this phrase when I want to convey that the opposing party is fully aware of what is going on – and they cannot find a way to back out if they do not like the term later when the deal is signed, sealed and delivered.
  3. [Enter Party’s Name] shall not unreasonably withhold, condition or delay such [consent/approval]…” This clause is great, when you understand that the other party’s consent/approval is important, but want to make sure that they do not delay, condition or unreasonably withhold such consent or approval.
  4. Except as provided in [name document]….” or “Subject to the terms and conditions in [insert document name]…“= I use this phrase when I want to limit my client’s liability in regards to knowing something they should know, or to exclude items contained in another document. I often use this phrase when I am limiting the Lender’s right to go after my client for environmental stuff, or when I want to limit Seller’s liability for knowing environmental conditions on their property. For example, “Except as provided in that certain Phase I, dated April 1, 2016, issued by Environmental Guys, Inc., to the best of Seller’s knowledge, Seller is unaware of any hazardous environmental conditions contained on the property.
  5. including, but not limited to, the following…” = I use this phrase when I am making a list of items that I expressly want to  include, but I also don’t want to cut my client’s rights off to other items not named.
  6. “…which consent shall be held in [enter party’s name] sole and absolute discretion…” = this is a great phrase to use when you want your client to obtain the right to consent or deny something the other party is requesting without having a valid reason.
  7. To the best of [enter party’s name] knowledge,” when you are making reps and warranties to the other side you always want to sneak this in front of what ever sort of rep/warranty you are giving the other side.

When I first started, the above clauses seemed so FOREIGN and “deal” specific, but then as I turned more and more contracts and agreements, I realized they aren’t deal specific and are usually needed in each and every agreement in some form or fashion.  Just by knowing these few phrases, you will have a jump start on making your initial edits, and make who ever hired you incredibly happy to know that he/she hired someone who knows SOMETHING, as opposed to nothing.

Can you think of any other phrases that you come across everyday that are missing in my little list? If so, please feel free to share them below in the comments section.