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Mother Teresa’s Anyway Poem

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

I had a Sex in the City moment this afternoon, I was dropping off a random assort of chocolates to one of the homeless residents in downtown Atlanta. This quote often comes to mind, since I’ll never know what really happened to those goodies! All I know is – it was between God and me.

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Loveless Cafe: 8400 Tennessee Hwy 100 Nashville, TN 37221

Two weeks ago I went to Nashville, and I was lucky enough to go to The Loveless Cafe. It’s a great country venue, with nice people and southern style meals. Here are a few pictures of my experience:

ImageOur waitress. She was incredibly kind and incredibly attentive. 

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Every table gets freshly baked biscuits! 

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Sweet and Savory. For savory, I enjoyed a fried chicken steak (AWESOME). For sweet, I enjoyed french toast. Initially my french toast came out raw and gewy. As stated, our waitress was so at tentative and came by and asked how our dishes were doing, I immediately told her about the french toast and she apologized and left with my plate. Then the manager came out with my  french toast. It was awesome! 

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Look out for this sign and make sure to stop by!  

I had a great time at Loveless Cafe. If you’re in the Nashville area, I would definitely make the trip out to check it out. It’s been around for decades and the service and quality are great. They do not take reservations, so come early or plan on waiting 30 mins to an hour, BUT there are restaurant stores around the venue that you can easily walk to and check out!

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101 Posts!

I did it! I made it to a 101 posts (almost as cool as “101 Dalmatians” — a movie that I almost FORGOT). When I started this blog  my goal was to develop a blog which addressed questions of dressing professionally in graduate school, for interviews, networking events & work. Unfortunately, and fortunately, my blog took a turn for food. I guess  your true passions end up shining bright. I still love make up  and clothing (all things material) but I also love cooking and my relationship  with food.

I am sure you can think of a great meal you had with friends, a boyfriend, your husband, your parents, sister, brother, and enemy. You associate food with certain memories. For example, I was just thinking of ramadan and how I made a very dear friend of mine a chili ragu from scratch and we both ate it when the sun came down or when my mother came into town and we had Cafe Bombay with a dear friend of mine. I remember feeling excited and all jittery — the food was great and so was the company!

My former boss from the summer would always take me out to eat at the best places around town, and it’s something I cherish and value. Over lunch he would express to me thoughts on personal matters & work. We had the BEST burger at Bocado. I have since gone back 4 times and have gotten it each and every time. He taught me certain values for when I become a practicing attorney — like tell your clients upfront what situation they’re in, settle the case if it’s a bad case & play fair and square. Although basic principles, these are issues that can be over looked when hiding “simple texts” in discovery or when more money could be made by NOT settling.

Okay here are some events that occurred between post 1 to post 100:

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We had okay appetizers provided at  Emory for the Great Gatsby Casino Night!  Also for being okay, I definitely had 10 sliders!!!!! LOL My law school best friend is to my right!

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Seafood Bonanza!  I wanted to make my BFF a special surprise dinner. We enjoyed this so much that after I finished my 2nd year of law school we had “Seafood Bonanza Part II” and it was great!!

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My boss gave me this recipe (which I posted here) I LOVED IT! The filet mignons were purchased by my BFF, who had received a gift card to Publix from his incredibly sweet grandmother! As soon as we got home from work we started cooking away and were literally done within 20-30 mins!

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Nuevo Laredo: my favorite Mexican restaurant in ATL. The wait is always an experience & the food is always worth it!

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This awesome, AWESOME, BARA CHIRASHI BOWL at RA Sushi (I’ll be updating this with a full post about my experience there). Spoiler Alert: I LOVED IT — definitely go there for lunch!

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My BFF took me to this awesome Chinese place in Sandy Springs! I LOVED IT! The food was so fresh, the atmosphere was nice. It was a great day. We went for Chinese food, and then had to literally jet over to the mall so I could pick up this cardigan that was on sale at Express and then we picked up Cinnabon. Such a fun evening!

Have a great day friends. Thanks for following me, supporting me and for reading my random banter. I appreciate each and every single one of you!

-Maheen

Farmwork wasn’t…

Farmwork wasn’t so bad after you got used to it. I understood what my stepfather meant when he said there was dignity in all work.

I’m reading a book called “It Makes Me Wanna Holler” by Nathan McCall. Understanding how race can impact behavior and attitudes is an excellent tool in relating to people and understanding where their frustration/anger comes from. It also enables me to reflect on my own life, feel grateful for the things I have, and respect & admire those who work hard (no matter what profession they are in).

Bettering Yourself: Relationship With Your Parents

We spend a considerable amount of time in front of the mirror, perfecting our looks, assembling flattering outfits, and adorning our bodies with jewels, but sometimes it’s good to pause and think “Hey – why am I doing this?”

Are you doing it to gain confidence?

Are you doing it to just look normal?

Are you doing it because it’s the norm?

Why?

This thought just crossed my head as I was studying — I was thinking about how I need to spend more meaningful time with my parents. They’re not getting any younger, and right now is the time to develop a meaningful relationship with them. I love my parents & I had an ideal childhood, so  why do I find it a chore to talk to them sometimes? I feel bad for considering it a chore, or something on my list of things to do, since they truly mean the world to me and I would have debilitating pain if anything ever happened to them.

Relationships and style are about effort. Sometimes a great look is effortless, and sometimes a great relationship is too, but every now and then you need to spice up your routine, and same goes for  your relationship, and you need to put a little more effort in or switch up/spice up your routine.

I like the interplay between the two, because to a certain degree they both go hand in hand. If you rush your routine, you may not be happy with your result as you glance at yourself using your rear view mirror, and the same could be said with relationships, if you pay minimal attention to it and rush out the door — you may not get the same satisfaction in maintaining it or even having it.

Some techniques I’m going to do to make my conversations more meaningful and energetic:

  • bring a ton of energy in my voice when i’m speaking. “Hey!!!!! How are you guys!?!?! What is going on? What did you eat? OMG THAT SOUNDS AMAZING!!!”  lol you get my point.
  • I’m going to tell them a joke.
  •  I’m going to be an active listener.
  • I’m going to make sure we do not dwell on the phone.
  • I’m going to make sure we use the time constructively.
  • I’ll ask for advice. (everyone loves feeling needed, and feeling like they effortless help you out)

Being hundreds of miles from my parents makes it hard — but i know it’s possible with a few tricks and tips.  Do you have any tips or tricks? How do you keep your relationship with your parents meaningful?

Dating: 11 tips to take it to the next level.

I’m NO pro at dating, but I do have a few fool-proof tricks up my sleeve. I would love to share them with you — so you can you snag “Mr. Right” and leave “Mr.  Okay-for-Right-Now”.

  1. If he loves you, likes you or is interested, he will make time for you.
  2. Don’t initially bombard him with texts and calls, keep it short and simple. You don’t want a cyber relationship– you want a REAL one: ditch the long texts or phone calls for hanging out in person, grabbing coffee together, or going for a stroll.
  3. Talk about outdoorsy activities that you enjoy — if he is paying attention, he’ll plan something around it on your next date because he knows that it’s a fail-proof date idea.
  4. Let him pay. You do not need to prove yourself — and you should always offer, but if he insists then let him. You want a partner who will take care of you — then it starts with this small gesture. You’re job is to look pretty and be good company. His job is to open doors, pick up the check , and be there ON time. After the third date, or even the second date you can pick up the dessert tab, pick up your lunch tab or make him something special!
  5. Take it slow, for the first two months. See each other once or twice a week, nothing more (this is what SLOW means)!
  6. Don’t act like your married  if you’re JUST dating or don’t act like he is your boyfriend when all you’ve done is go out on a date.
  7. If you’ve been hanging out for a while (one month or more) and you both really like each other or you like him, then ask him “where is this going?” or “what is going on between us” — it’ll definitely take courage, but if he says I don’t know or he wants to be friends, then the balls in your court. You can continue to hang out, cut him out or not feel guilty about meeting other people.
  8. Remember you’re single until he is actually your boyfriend & he is single until you’re actually his girlfriend: girls often get upset that this guy did them wrong, blah blah blah blah blah — my first question is: did he know the parameters of your relationship? “Ummm kinda, we didn’t talk about it — it was understood”  If this is your answer, then make it clear to him that this is what you thought, and ask why he didn’t think that? If you it’s a reasonable excuse, then set boundaries, so you know you’re on the same page, if it’s not a reasonable reason– LEAVE HIM. Don’t open the door again. Bye.
  9. Be simple. Don’t be demanding & don’t change his date ideas. Go along for the ride with a smile, and appreciate the time he put into planning the date!
  10. THE MOST IMPORTANT TIP: DO NOT BE A LAST MINUTE SORT OF GIRL.  You’re time is valuable and he should know that! He should plan his dates with you well in advance. For example, if he wants to go out on Friday, he should tell you by Tuesday! You want him actively thinking about you and your date through out the week, you want him to work for you and dwell on you.  As you date for a longer period of time, then it’s okay to do things on a last minute basis — because who does like the spontaneous girl!
  11. Be confident. You’re beautiful: inside and out. Don’t feel insecure  — think about how luck you are — there are girls that are being sold somewhere? People who find the internet to be a LUXURY, people  who have no one to use this tricks on! So trust me girl you’re lucky.  You have eyes to read this, and common sense to interpret it — TRUST ME. Be thankful, smile and “fake it till you make it.”